Online dating profiles are of major concern to just about everyone who is engaged in online dating. Most people strike out on their own to create the perfectly engaging profile, while others realizing their shortcomings ask for help. Still, others research the tips provided by experts and build their profiles accordingly. If you pay close attention to the tips and advice given by a variety of dating experts, you may notice some similarities, but you will also notice a number of differences. This is because everyone has different experiences and because profile advice would vary based on gender. What would work for a man may not work for a woman because men and women process information differently. Although men and women may be looking for similar qualities in each other, they use different criteria to determine who is eligible for their attention. In this article, I will try to give you a balanced view in how to write the best online dating profile. These tips work regardless of gender.
You have probably heard a thousand times that a picture is worth a thousand words. Although I cannot put an exact number on the value of a picture, I can say that it is important. Is it the most important part of your profile? Probably not, but its value is significant. A picture is what catches someone’s attention online for the first time. It is the same way when you meet someone in person for the first time, you observe their appearance, their body language, their smile, the way they look. You decide then and there if you have any interest in getting to know them better solely based on their appearance. Your profile picture should be one that represents you in the way that you want to be seen. It should be an accurate depiction of who you are and at the same time should show your best side. Even though a picture is worth a thousand words, remember that a dating site is not social media and it is not the place to loads tons of pictures. In other words, there is such a thing as too many pictures. Having 2-3 pictures is more than enough for a dating profile. Multiple pictures help potential suitors to know that you are a real person and not just a placeholder put in by the dating site to draw you in.
As you may be aware, each profile has a bio section. This, in my opinion, is one of the most important parts of your profile. Your bio is where you will let everyone know who you are. Your bio needs a significant amount of your focus because it helps your potential suitors to determine what you have to offer when it comes to relationships. Bios are where you tell about your career or job, what you like to do and any interesting information about yourself. This section should be as detailed as possible because it is where you are selling yourself to onlookers. I believe most people understand the importance of their bio because this is where the majority of kitten-fishing occurs. It is normal to want to put your best foot forward, however, be very careful what you write when trying to impress your audience because you do not want to lie to your potential mates.There is something negative in almost everyone’s life. These things, that you are less than proud of, should also be part of your bio. There are ways to explain your negative attributes that can make them more understandable to others. For example, it is better to explain how a negative event in your past made your future better because of how you handled it. You learned from your past and overcame adversities; therefore, you are stronger and smarter than you once were because of your past. (For more about honesty in online dating click here) Beginning a relationship with lies is a sure way to end the relationship before it has a chance to go anywhere. If you intend to have a long-term relationship with anyone you meet via an online dating site, it is in your best interest to be truthful in your profile. Why? Because if you lie, your date will find out eventually and it will introduce an element of mistrust into your new relationship and it may not be easily overcome. Therefore, avoid the lies up front so you don’t have to worry about explaining them away later.
Part of your profile should include who or what you are looking for in a partner or love interest.
From my observation, most of the people who are looking for love online seem unsure of what they are looking for in a mate.(Complete what are you looking for questionnaire) I know there are experts that advise against being too specific in your dating profile so that you can cast a wider net to attract a larger number of people to your profile. While this will indeed attract a larger number of people to your profile, it will also attract a larger number of people who do not fit into what you are seeking in a long-term mate. Of course, if you are looking to have a casual relationship, then the more the merrier. This part of your profile should clarify your purpose for dating, not just to your potential suitors but also to yourself. If you are looking for just a fling, then your profile should state that (e.g. looking for someone to have fun with). If you are marriage minded and ready to settle down, your profile should state that (e.g. ready to meet Mr. or Mrs. right). Writing this part of your profile is an important exercise because it’ll bring you mentally closer to your purpose for dating and it’ll help you to attract only the ones that want what you are seeking in your ideal mate. This group of people may be much smaller in number, but if you are looking for a lifetime commitment, you are seeking quality, not quantity.
Although you need to be specific and thorough in your online dating profile, remember most people would prefer you to be concise in stating your information. So, do not be too long-winded. Find a way to get your information across without causing the reader to lose interest. If you need assistance with your profile you may contact me here.
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