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Online Dating: Dating Outside Your Race.

Bi-racial couple dating outside your race edatingsolutions.comOnline Dating is more popular that it has ever been and finding meaningful relationships online is more common than ever. The availability of technology has made online dating possible and has made the world smaller in terms of reachability. Because of the greater degree of interaction between people from varying backgrounds, it is no surprise that interracial relationships are on the rise. There was a time that dating outside one’s race was never even a consideration, but now it is a question that pops up more frequently.

This event suggests that people may have remained segregated due to lack of opportunity to meet people of different races or perhaps due to limited opportunity to get to know others that are different from themselves on a more personal level. Whatever the reasons, it is clear that online dating is helping to bridge the gap and causing more people to realize that love does not come in shades, but in humans.

Online Dating May Be Contributing To The Rise In Interracial Coupling

Online dating has provided single people with tools to find and connect with others from across the globe. Not surprisingly, this has contributed to an increase in people dating outside of their culture or race. Obviously, there are multiple factors that have helped increase the frequency of interracial relationships, but the introduction of the internet and online dating sites have done their part to contribute to this increase.

One of the biggest events that led to the increase in dating across race was a Supreme Court ruling. In 1967, Mildred and Richard Loving were sent to prison for being married to each other, due to a law that prohibited interracial marriage in Virginia at the time. The case was taken to the Supreme Court where it was declared unconstitutional, and from that point on it was legal throughout the entire country for anyone to marry people that are outside of their own race. Now, 39% of Americans feel that interracial marriage is not only acceptable but that it’s good for our society. [PewResearch] That is a dramatic increase from seven years ago when only 24% of people felt the same. Also, in the year 2000, 31% of Americans were opposed to having their close relatives in relationships with someone of a different race. Today, that number is only about 10%. As you can see, we are making some great progress over time as a society.

Dating apps such as Tinder have also contributed to an increase in interracial couples, just as dating websites like online dating sites have. Just like incredibly popular websites, apps provide the same service; helping people find and connect with other people. That means that someone using these apps could find someone they have a lot in common with that they would never have actively looked for. Living in a small or secluded area may make it difficult for someone to find their ideal match because they only have a finite amount of people around them to get to know. These websites and smartphone apps open up opportunities that anyone looking for love should take advantage of.

Am I Racist For Sticking To My Own Race

It is understood and even normal, that some people may not want to date a person who is a different race than that of their own. After all, we all have preferences. A person does not have to be prejudiced to find a certain group of people more attractive. It is the way we were built. Prejudice is a complicated subject and it evokes many strong feelings, but my goal with this post is not to discuss prejudice or its ramifications.

Just because we have made a lot of progress as a whole, doesn’t mean everyone approves of interracial relationships. Interracial relationships are still very much taboo in many parts of the USA. It is not just taboo among a single demographic but among all demographics. It must be noted, however, that there are certain groups who are considered to be more acceptable partners if you choose to date outside your race. That being said, there will always be someone, somewhere, that is against it, and that is something which cannot be avoided. Each generation in a family, generally, has grown to accept interracial dating more and more over the past 50 years. Some families may not be as supportive as others when it comes to this, so if you are interested in dating someone outside of your race that is something you will have to take into consideration.

Should I Date Outside My Race?

One of the arguments used against dating inter-racially is the differences you may encounter when you’re dating someone of a different race or cultural group. In my experience, culture is not strictly a racial element. People from similar areas have the same culture and cultural values regardless of their complexion. The morals and values that you were raised with might not completely match what your partner was raised to believe but that is neither cultural nor racial. Morals and values differ from household to household as well as culturally. If race were the single deciding factor for morals and values, people from the same town and the same race should never get divorced, if they marry.

Overall, one of the most important things to think about when searching for love online is that when you limit yourself to a certain race of people, you also limit the number of chances you have to find the perfect one for you. When you love someone or vice versa, their complexion would not be a deciding factor, it will simply be something that makes them more attractive to you. Forget the stereotypes, and all the stories that you have heard about people from other racial groups, and make an effort to get to know the person as a person. There are wonderful, decent, people in all races and cultures. These people more often than not share the same intrinsic values and have the same ideals that you do.

Do not be naive, race is not a dictator of a person’s values. There are criminals and undesirables in every group of people. All this means is that you must apply the same cautions to everyone you meet online as a potential date regardless of their race or culture. Doing this would allow you to see people for who they are and not leave yourself vulnerable to those whose intentions are not pure.

Dating outside your race can be difficult, but mostly because of the pressures imposed upon you by others. Not everyone would be open to having a friend from a different race in their close circle. Families are also notorious for“protecting” themselves from people of other ethnic backgrounds. Sometimes, the change it brings to your life will be too great to be worth it for many people. If your personal happiness is more important to you than pleasing everyone else, then absolutely open yourself up to the possibility that you could find a decent, loving person in a different shade than your own. You will be pleasantly surprised. Have you ever dated anyone outside your race? Was the biggest problem the race or the culture? Or was it other environmental factors?

If you ever need a hand or have any questions, feel free to leave them below and I will be more than happy to help you out.

All the best,



7 Replies to “Online Dating: Dating Outside Your Race.”

  1. Finding a partner from another race could be a tricky thing but I have seen it happening in many of my friends. Personally I am mostly neutral on this subject, but without a doubt, everybody will have a little bit of a “bias” that is hard to get rid of due to upbringing or social pressure. I think it also depends upon whether singles can find someone they like around them. Most often, they would probably choose to go for their own race when they have the choice. Of course, expanding our horizons is definitely important, because you really never know what kind of awesome person you can be meeting out there. For Chinese people like me, usually it is not easy to date or marry someone outside of our race, because many of us are taught to be traditional. Unless we do not have a choice, we would usually still go for Chinese partners. If not, everybody in the family will give lots of social pressure. Of course, it is not like it matters because marriage is between two people only, not the rest of the world. However, those who go for it will have to be prepared to handle everything afterwards on their own. It might feel pretty lonely. Nevertheless, a lifetime of happiness will usually involve some kind of risk to be found. What do you think?

    1. Hello Win, I think you are absolutely right in saying that a lifetime of happiness will involve at least some kind of risk. If you reach out to someone, whether it’s online or in person, you’re taking the risk of them not being interested in talking to you. If you do connect with someone, there is the chance that the two of you aren’t going to match very well, and the relationship could end. No matter what we do, there is the chance of rejection or failure, and if we want to be successful in our search for love, we can’t let that deter us from trying. Thank you for the comment.

  2. Hi Matt
    Lovely article. Once talking about interracial relationship/Marriage was considered as a great sin,
    But Nowadays due to technology development. the things are changing. Your article is a great eye-opener for the people still against the Interracial relationship. Definitely, the interracial relationship will make the couples happy because they get what they like, and the interracial -generations will be healthier scientifically.
    Thanks for a great article.

    1. Hello, thank you for commenting. You are right in saying that things are changing, and that as time goes on interracial dating is becoming more accepted all over. There will always be some people who are against it, and everyone has their own preferences. People should not let other’s opinions affect how they live their lives however, and as long as we find a good person that will make us happy, we should be with them. 

  3. Wonderful article. Gives a deep insight into the factors of online dating. Finding a relationship is hard enough, and adding race into the mix just limits you even more. I believe there is someone out there for everyone and race should not be a factor.
    Everyone has feelings and we are all humans. Most times feelings can be overcome, it’s nature to be attracted to someone from their personality not appearance.

  4. Hey Bond,

    Thank you for the loving article about online dating. I am one of people who encourage this type of dating due to as already wrote out in the article “it has contributed to an increase in people dating outside of their culture or race”.
    I think that it is too much important to date, meet, love or marry women from foreign and different cultures, it would make world more close.
    Thank you for your lovely article.

    1. Hello Haitham, thank you for your comment. 

      Online dating is a great way to meet all kinds of new people from all over the world. There is nothing wrong with having certain preferences, however, if you limit yourself too much, it will take you much longer to find your potential partner. You are definitely correct in saying that the more we get to know and spend time with different cultures, people, in general, will be happier and more understanding. You never know what the love of your life is going to look like, and if you don’t try something new or go out of your comfort zone just a little bit, you may be missing out on the one. 

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