Are you shy? Do you find dating difficult because of your shyness? Well, you are not alone. Everyone has some degree of shyness, albeit to varying degrees. You may have considered yourself to be an introvert because introverts are generally shy. However, shyness goes way beyond introversion, in fact, some introverts can be very social and socially engaging. Introverts, however, tend to find dealing with large groups of people mentally draining. Many introverts prefer the company of a small group of people but they are not necessarily shy.
A person who is shy can be introverted, but an introvert does not have to be shy.
A person who is on the extreme end of shyness will have trouble making friends and possibly finding the love of their life. When shyness affects your life in an extreme manner, it is no longer just shyness but a disorder called social anxiety disorder. It could take an outgoing person a long time to find someone that is well suited to them, so it must be even more difficult for someone who is shy, right?
That is where online dating can help you. As I’ve said in previous posts, online dating websites are simply platforms that allow you to meet and connect with people. They cannot make you fall in love with someone; they are just tools that allow you to meet the person you may fall in love with. There are ways that a shy person can be part of the dating world and still get to know someone without being too uncomfortable. Most people are neither introverted nor extroverted but land somewhere in the middle. Every personality type has an element of shyness, but different personalities handle meeting people differently. It is not easy, in some cases, for people to recognize this element. That’s where mentoring, specific to you, will make all the difference in your search for love online.
Don’t let your shyness get in the way of your happiness
If you find it hard to open up to others right away and get to know them, or have difficulty meeting and talking to people that you don’t know, it can be frustrating to try to find someone to spend the rest of your life with. You could find yourself being lonely and discouraged by this. Luckily, the introduction of the internet and online dating sites can make this process a lot easier for everyone. If people take the time to create effective and honest profiles, (read more about how to write a good online dating profile) you can learn a lot about them without even having to “meet” them. It allows you to see what their interests and hobbies are, what they’re passionate about, and what their life goals are, so you can determine whether they would be a good fit for you.
Depending on how shy you are, you may even be nervous to contact someone through messages on a website; maybe a fear of rejection is keeping you from even trying to contact them. However, if you put yourself out there and take a chance, you WILL find someone to spend your life with eventually, and all the time and effort you put into online dating with be worth it. Keep in mind that no one likes rejection and everyone deals with it at some point in their lives. Unfortunately, we cannot succeed if we never try, and trying sometimes leads to rejection.
While some shy people may find it difficult to reach out and meet people, there are some people who may find it difficult beginning a relationship with a shy person. The most important thing is this situation is patience and understanding. If you meet and contact someone online who doesn’t seem to talk to you very much, or maybe is hesitant to give a normal amount of personal information to you, it doesn’t necessarily mean that they aren’t interested in getting to know you. It is completely possible that they are just shy and have a hard time opening up to new people. It’s entirely possible that they are actually very interested in you, but need enough time to be comfortable sharing more about their life with you. In the end, your patience with someone may pay off, and you might find someone that you will share the rest of your life with. You need to make sure you don’t miss an opportunity for that by not giving someone the benefit of the doubt and the time they need to open up to you.
Most People Suffer From Some Degree Of Shyness
Communication is one of the most important parts of establishing and maintaining a long-lasting relationship with someone. This is especially the case when you’re a shy person that is trying to meet new people. It may be easier for a shy person to see online dating as a series of steps to complete. These steps only qualify a person to be online in a way that makes it possible to meet someone new. There are a number of steps that make your online date search more effective and they are different for every person. I have gone over many of these steps in various blogs, however, the specifics are dependent on your personality. A person that is shy in any way can still go through the motions of completing their online dating profile with no interactions with others. Your communication can start with putting your basic information on your profile and expanding it when you feel comfortable doing so.
While it may be difficult, it’s important to put the effort in and communicate with your interest to the best of your ability, even if you need to do it in stages. If you aren’t able to open up completely, you should still let your possible interests know that you just need time in order to do so. We should all remember that most people are nervous about meeting someone new. We should also be mindful that most people have a fear of rejection. Meeting new people and being rejected are parts of life that keep some people from moving forward with their needs in relationships. These happenings are often unpleasant but can be crushing to some. As always, the people that are willing to be understanding of the struggles of others will see more success in the area of relationships. Whether you are an introvert, an extrovert, or just plain shy, everyone needs a certain type of understanding in their mate. An effort should be made to be a kind and patient prospective mate which will also make you more attractive to others.
Online dating is a very good way for someone who is shy to find someone they may connect with more easily. There are websites that are dedicated solely to this, so if you are looking for someone that is also introverted, it is an option to consider. However, we should all try to keep an open mind when we’re trying to find our partner. Just because someone is outgoing and expressive, that doesn’t mean they won’t be a good fit for you. As a shy person, you have to remember that you are not dating the world or a group, you are looking for someone to date. In my experience, even the shyest people have people in their circle with whom they are very open. If you have social anxiety disorder, then seek professional help. A doctor may be able to make your life much easier.
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