Considering a number of people that are now using online dating sites, it is not a surprise that many are getting in too deep with their obsession to find their one and only match online. It is what drives the estimated 2-billion-dollar industry every year. While dating sites are a great tool for meeting potential mates, they are just that; a tool. They are to be used as a means to an end in your search. Unfortunately, most positive tools in life can also be used negatively.
Some people are getting attached to the idea of dating sites as a way of life.
Something to look forward to every day. A virtual place to search for friends, communicate, and flirt with new people on an ongoing basis. It is also a format for people to replace other areas of their lives that they feel are lacking. Some will use dating sites to boost their ego or simply to have pen pals for regular chats. While none of these activities are dangerous, they can be a waste of time and money for all involved, especially when someone is involved with multiple sites on a continuing basis.
There are people on these sites that are being used for activities and they don’t know that it’s happening. Also, the people that are using others are spending time and money on an activity that will never be as satisfying as what the dating sites are intended to provide; introductions to others for a lasting relationship. For most people, a fulfilling relationship is the best way to satisfy most of their needs. A good relationship will boost your ego, provide great communication, and frequent flirting can be part of the deal as well. It is best to learn to the signs of being too attached to date sites to be able to focus on your goal of finding love online. So, how does one recognize it when they are getting in too deep with dating sites?
It is exciting to meet new people and start a new relationship. Many people are more interested in the search than in finding something permanent.
In this way they are getting attention, communicating, and flirting regularly without any commitment or any deep feelings involved to be emotionally damaged. While this may sound ideal to those that are in this frame of mind, it is important to note the downsides to this activity. There is the constant money spent on dating sites that will not get cheaper as the years go on. And then there is the time that could be spent in a much more productive way. There are some that will spend every free minute that they have flirted with people while having no intentions of creating an actual relationship.
While this can be considered acceptable if the other parties involved are aware of the situation, most of the time they are not aware. They are being used for someone’s entertainment instead of using that time to search for love. With the acceptance of online dating growing every year, it is no surprise that people are finding ways to use these sites for reasons that were not intended. Try to stay focused on your original goals that you set when you got involved with dating sites. Don’t let yourself stray from reality in favor of what is easy at the moment. The search for a new relationship is exciting. Instead of constantly searching for a new relationship for this excitement, search instead for one relationship that you can advance to the next exciting level. Challenge yourself to find and keep a lasting partnership fresh and continue moving forward. Look for ways to make your situation better without using others for entertainment only.
I have always been an advocate of being confident and learning to be single before searching for someone to share your life. It is the best way to ensure your future mate will be attracted to you. People that are lacking this confidence will sometimes look to strangers on the internet for this kind of ego boost. Typically, this kind of person will look for others online without concern for compatibility. They are looking for attention rather than a connection. They are sometimes willing to hurt the feelings of others or lead them on for an extended time without concern. Somewhere along the line, this kind of person gave up on the idea of someone special giving them what they need in terms of confidence and emotional support. They are willing to waste the time of others if they are getting what they want. Learn to be single [read more about being single] so that what you seek, when you are ready, is what will satisfy you in a complete way without needing validation from multiple acquaintances.
There are many pen-pal relationships formed in online dating.
It can be a great way to help a person to get past the difficult stages in their lives. The problem starts when people search for pen-pals in the guise of seeking love. It is another way to get attention and find virtual friendship without being too committed to someone. Again, if all parties understand that the relationship will go no farther than written communication, no harm is done. There are sites, other than dating sites, that cater to these kinds of needs. Some pen-pal sites introduce people from all over the world so that we can learn about different ways of life. At the same time, we are satisfying our need for friendship. Let’s try to be a little more specific about what we are looking for on a particular site. It is possible to find what we need in many formats; however, it is more effective and considerate to others if we use websites for their intended service.
It is a common complaint that people are not happy with their results while dating online. While there are ways to improve their results, some chose to abandon their original goal to find true love and use date sites to fulfill their needs in different ways. The biggest problem with this approach is that there is no finish line. You will be online for an unlimited length of time because there will be no permanent solution to what is lacking in your life.
People will only flirt for a certain length of time with no progression in a relationship.
Some will temporarily boost your confidence if there is reciprocation. After these temporary situations end, you will be back in the search for a person to fulfill your needs. While searching for your ideal mate, it is important, and sometimes difficult, to stay focused on the end line. Be determined to find the one person that will make you feel content in your life. The special someone that sees your needs and reacts to them accordingly so that you don’t need the validation of others.
Surrendering to poor dating site results, and instead focusing on temporary satisfaction from others is letting yourself be stagnant. You will slide into a place where you will be supporting dating sites instead of supporting your chance for a better future. There is no replacement for true love. If you find yourself on dating sites without results, seek help from all sources at your disposal. If you are willing to search for attention, of any kind, rather than searching for your ideal mate, then you may be in too deep. You may need to reassess your needs and revisit your initial feelings when you began your involvement with online dating sites. Make sure you still see dating sites as tools rather than entertainment. Use your dating site tools to reach your goal of never needing a dating site again, and avoid being in too deep.
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