One of the things that will be brought up in almost every discussion about online relationship advice is “keeping it honest”. It is better to keep information to yourself than to give false information. Very seldom will a potential date continue to pursue someone that has tried to deceive him or her. Nor should they. Most people try to hide what they consider to be their short comings and elaborate on their positive attributes. This would seem like a good way to attract attention, however, if the circumstances turn out as you hope it will, all will be revealed in very short order. Honesty is crucial to starting and maintaining a healthy relationship.
Countless times I have read through dating profiles that screamed “I AM LYING”. When you’ve read through enough profiles and suffered enough disappointments based on false profiles you can spot the lies immediately. People often lie about their age, height, weight, marital status, etc. Many even post a picture of someone other than themselves. I would never suggest that someone give too much information on a dating profile. I would suggest that the information that you are willing to share with others be accurate. One can always elaborate on their profile information when asked by a potential match after they deem it wise to do so.
One good piece of relationship advice is do not lie at all if you are hoping to start a legitimate relationship.
There are more people involved with online dating than ever. While this increases the opportunities to find happiness it also increases the likelihood that you will be the target of a variety online dating scams. This falls in the category of using your time wisely and more importantly being safe. The dating world is like many other areas of life where if something sounds too good to be true, then it probably is. Never think you are going to trick someone into falling for you. The one that sees through your deception could be the one that was your match and you’ve missed the opportunity. You should never entertain further contact with someone that you believe to be dishonest. You, in return, should never expect to be successful in your search for a partner if you start with deception. A little ‘white lie’ may be a big lie for some individuals, so do not lie at all if you are hoping to start a legitimate relationship.
It is very natural to highlight your best qualities. Most of us try to do this daily. Even if just to go to the grocery store we will comb our hair a certain way or put on that shirt that seems to fit just right today. It’s good practice. The problem starts when we try to hide too much of our real selves. The real-world dictates that no person is perfect. Our prospective partners are going to see our best and our worst at some point. What we find annoying about ourselves can even be cute or endearing to others. There is no need to highlight our worst qualities, let’s just not pretend that they do not exist. When you find the right person for you, they will be happy for who you are. That means being happy about the things that they were looking for and accepting the things that are just part of who you are.
Most people have had a time in their dating life when they tried to hide a little too much about themselves. It tends to come as a shock to the other party when what they perceive to be a negative attribute reveals itself. This is most likely because we try to see the best in our dates in hopes that there are few and maybe no negatives. Be real for your prospective dates and be realistic in return. It will provide a smoother transition to the next stage in your relationships if there are no negative surprises to deal with.
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